Have you tried just about everything and he still won’t
commit?
Do you feel like he is pulling away despite your attempts
to pull for commitment?
Do you feel like he’ll never marry you?
Welcome to the world of many women who want that long-term
commitment from their men, but for one reason or another
simply don’t get it.
Here are 15 reasons why men fear commitment.
It is important that you come to understand what holds men
back, so you can know what to do and what not to do when
you think he’s the one for you for the long haul.
Ladies, for many men the “C” word means jail to them.
Men like their free time with the guys, evenings out at
the bar playing pool and drinking beer, and late nights
killing as many guys as they can on Play Station.
They don’t want to give those things up and they think
that if they “commit”, they will have to.
Let’s face it: men like a variety when it comes to sex.
Granted, many men outgrow this and begin to desire a “life
partner”, but the thought of having sex with just one
woman for the rest of his life scares the hell out of so
many men.
Women might not like to admit it, but they tend to have a
little “crazy” in them.
I’m talking more about the women who hunt and pursue their
men down, drowning him in texts, calls, and the 20
question game every evening.
(Where have you been? With who? Doing what?)
If you pursue your man too aggressively, it will scare
him.
Who wants to be hunt down like an animal only to know that
they’re headed for a cage?
Ease off, ladies. Some space is required.
Chances are your guy has dated plenty of other women and
they weren’t “the one” and he may fear that you are not
either.
Women may think after a few dates that she’s ready for
that “commitment”, but it takes men much, much longer.
He does not want to rush and simply wants to have a good
time dating with no expectations.
Do your best to allow him time to dig on you and respect
his thought process.
Your guy has buddies. Some of those buddies have made a
long term commitment or gotten married and you know what
he’s been hearing from his buddies?
How his girl turned into his mother.
“Why were you so late getting home?
Stop leaving your dirty underwear on the floor!
Are you watching football again???”
Guys don’t want to hear their mother’s voices come out of
their ladies mouths.
This is one reason they are hesitant to commit.
They want freedom to be who they are without belittling
and judgment.
Many times during the dating process, men and women split
expenses, but when they get into long term relationships
or marriage, many women expect the man to take care of all
the finances while she does what she pleases.
The thought of his girl turning into a woman like this
scares him.
Men do like to provide, however, they would prefer their
women contribute something to the relationship as well.
Men fear that a serious relationship or marriage will
dramatically decrease his chances of having sex.
It is fairly common knowledge that the longer a couple is
together, the less sex they have due mainly to the woman
becoming less interested.
This does not sound appealing to a man.
Commitment and marriage to a man makes him think that he
will have to change.
No more late night parties with the guys, no more video
games all weekend, and moving in together means he might
have to actually put cleanliness on his priority list.
Men don’t love to think of changing as such.
If a woman starts talking about babies while dating, many
men completely freak out.
They are not ready to even think about being responsible
for a crying, diaper dirtying, slobbering baby. Hold off
on such talk so you do not scare him off.
As much as he wants you to contribute to the relationship
as you can, a man will still want to feel like he is
taking care of you.
The thought that maybe he won’t be able to scares him and
causes him to drag his feet when it comes to commitment.
Time usually cures this fear, so be patient and affirm
your man often to boost his confidence.
Some men will tell you flat out that they are not mature
enough for a long term commitment.
The minute the get drunk and see a pretty girl at the
local tavern, they might not be able to resist her.
Appreciate the honesty and decide if you are willing for
your man to grow up or keep it moving.
Ladies, if you are dating a man and you are not happy, he
is well aware of the fact that he won’t be able to make
you happy in the future either.
If he commits while you are moaning, groaning, and whining
all the time, he is setting himself up for a miserable
future.
If half of marriages end in divorce, this is a good reason
why men ought to fear commitment.
Relationships and marriages require hard work and quite a
bit of maturity to make it for the long haul.
Many guys simple want to enjoy a woman’s presence but not
have to make a long term commitment for fear of failure.
If a man had a traumatic childhood due to parents who
fought all the time or simply grew up in an extremely
toxic home environment, he may be less likely to want to
commit.
He fears that a good situation will turn bad somewhere
down the road and he does not want to have to feel the
negative feelings he did when he was a kid.
Men normally like their identity and fear commitment
because some women try to take a man and change him into
something she wants him to be.
Men are not puppets and they don’t want to be treated as
such.
If you are with a man that has commitment issues, simply
have a heart to heart with him. Doing such could give you
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